well, i meant less "knowing what to do" in terms of "not having social skills", and more in terms of "i have an anxiety disorder and i have no clue how to cope with the panic so i withdraw instead." at least for me, personally. that's why it took me going into actual therapy to get better, because there i learned coping methods besides just Not Dealing With It.

i'm glad you conquered your issues, and i agree that generally, making yourself do the scary shit is the way to go in conquering the fear. i'm just saying that sometimes the anxiety threshold is so high that you need additional help to get over that hurdle, besides your own willpower. does that make sense?