Also, she had a tendency to very, very obsessively connect to the characters she played, and their lives often paralleled hers

that is one of the things that makes it where people end up having problems with her. if you crit her character or if your character doesnt like hers IC she takes it as a personal attack on her and has, on at least 3 different occasions (that i know of), turned it into a witch hunt against the mun become obsessed with them. i feel lucky to have been on the inside of it, it taught me to never have my character dislike or disagree with hers in game.