wasn't going to say what I was thinking, but I guess I can toss in something to all this too.
Just because the stuff we do takes place over the internet doesn't mean that the rules are any different. You still have a reputation. It's still your job to cultivate it. Being a shitty person is still being a shitty person - and yes, there are still misunderstandings, but when you get a bunch of people together they're going to share their experiences as they remember them. That's what communication is for, not having to reinvent the wheel...or, in this case, re-encounter the badly behaved RPer.
Oversharing is an endemic bad habit around here. To some extent, that's fine, that's permissible in this kind of environment. But it's gotten to the point where it's like people forget how to handle other people the minute they sit down at the computer. Would you tell this to these people if you were speaking to them face-to-face? No? Don't do it. There's a huge difference between having a friendly hobby relationship with someone and trusting them to keep potentially sensitive opinions secret. Sharing a hobby doesn't make us all happy fuzzy biffles who can dismiss any conflict in the interest of "pretendy funtimes". OOCA = OOCC.
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Just because the stuff we do takes place over the internet doesn't mean that the rules are any different. You still have a reputation. It's still your job to cultivate it. Being a shitty person is still being a shitty person - and yes, there are still misunderstandings, but when you get a bunch of people together they're going to share their experiences as they remember them. That's what communication is for, not having to reinvent the wheel...or, in this case, re-encounter the badly behaved RPer.
Oversharing is an endemic bad habit around here. To some extent, that's fine, that's permissible in this kind of environment. But it's gotten to the point where it's like people forget how to handle other people the minute they sit down at the computer. Would you tell this to these people if you were speaking to them face-to-face? No? Don't do it. There's a huge difference between having a friendly hobby relationship with someone and trusting them to keep potentially sensitive opinions secret. Sharing a hobby doesn't make us all happy fuzzy biffles who can dismiss any conflict in the interest of "pretendy funtimes". OOCA = OOCC.