the analogy and your approach in general to this is pretty infantilizing, but okay

even when i was a kid if i'd insisted on running indoors and ended up tripping again and again i'd eventually be gently told 'see, this is why you shouldn't run indoors; you need to be more careful' the next time i needed a bandaid

even a mild lecture stung to hear, but it also directly pointed out what behavior i engaged in that caused me to get hurt in a way that couldn't be brushed aside

this gave me the chance to reflect on my behavior and change it

my mom wouldn't lecture me to be a huge mean bitch kicking me while i was down, but because she cared about me and didn't want me to hurt myself again