this. i don't give a crying fuck if you're a lesbian and like those series- i'm a lesbian and i like some of those shows too, but that doesn't mean that i can actively deny their cultural implications. it's when you start acting like they're somehow this sacred treasure chest of female characters because they have fetishized lesbian fan-service thrown in for the benefit of the straight male the canon is primarily aimed at that i start to get pissed. no one is saying you can't like them, but just with any other canon you need to accept their faults without exploding into a defensive hissyfit.

it's not homophobic or misogynistic of me to say that i think that the vast majority of those shows have harmful portrayals of women and f/f relationships.