I am magic, then. I've had to call her out on things a couple of times and after explaining to her why I was pissed off always got apologies out of her without any red herring-deflects or PA whining.
My social skills must just be more fabulous than you guys'.
Or pretty new to the Tango circle. I was pretty fine at not getting that response from her for a good long while.
Honestly, though? I hope you stick to her. I hope you can keep right there with her and catch her when she starts acting passive aggressive and I hope you can help her correct her behavior. That would be phenomenal.
She's been a good friend to me so I don't plan on going anywhere, but I don't take shit from anyone either. I'm quick-as to speak up when annoyed (though I'm the master of tact in these situations alone, things normally go smooth when I confront people). I highly doubt just one person can correct someone else's behaviour and I'm not on a mission to change her, but w/e. We'll see.
Well, then I'm glad she's got one friend who'll stick by her. I will admit entirely that I want her to grow out of this behavior.
But I am never going to speak to her again. Maybe I did not handle myself with absolutely perfect tact. Maybe I could have been more thoughtful. But that doesn't excuse her treatment of me, and I'm not going to speak to her because everything I've described was my experience with her and I do not want to have to endure that kind of emotional abuse. I don't want to deal with her deflecting the confrontations I raise to her and having her attack me and force an apology out of me for something absolutely stupidly minor. I don't want to deal with her hypocrisy of getting mad at me for not confronting her when she never confronts me.
I can't do it. Absolutely cannot. And that is the case with most of the people who were pushed away/backed off from Tango.
"She has treated me better than any of you shits she dropped ever did" "Sorry I'm so invisible to you all and that only Tango ever gave a single fuck."
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(Anonymous) 2012-01-30 04:48 pm (UTC)(link)My social skills must just be more fabulous than you guys'.
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(Anonymous) 2012-01-30 05:09 pm (UTC)(link)Or pretty new to the Tango circle. I was pretty fine at not getting that response from her for a good long while.
Honestly, though? I hope you stick to her. I hope you can keep right there with her and catch her when she starts acting passive aggressive and I hope you can help her correct her behavior. That would be phenomenal.
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(Anonymous) 2012-01-30 06:44 pm (UTC)(link)She's been a good friend to me so I don't plan on going anywhere, but I don't take shit from anyone either. I'm quick-as to speak up when annoyed (though I'm the master of tact in these situations alone, things normally go smooth when I confront people). I highly doubt just one person can correct someone else's behaviour and I'm not on a mission to change her, but w/e. We'll see.
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(Anonymous) 2012-01-30 08:07 pm (UTC)(link)But I am never going to speak to her again. Maybe I did not handle myself with absolutely perfect tact. Maybe I could have been more thoughtful. But that doesn't excuse her treatment of me, and I'm not going to speak to her because everything I've described was my experience with her and I do not want to have to endure that kind of emotional abuse. I don't want to deal with her deflecting the confrontations I raise to her and having her attack me and force an apology out of me for something absolutely stupidly minor. I don't want to deal with her hypocrisy of getting mad at me for not confronting her when she never confronts me.
I can't do it. Absolutely cannot. And that is the case with most of the people who were pushed away/backed off from Tango.
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(Anonymous) 2012-01-30 08:58 pm (UTC)(link)Re: ayrt
(Anonymous) 2012-01-30 10:10 pm (UTC)(link)no subject
(Anonymous) 2012-01-31 03:19 am (UTC)(link)"I never got that from Tango"
"I'm just more tactful"
All implications
Re: ayrt
(Anonymous) 2012-02-01 07:54 pm (UTC)(link)"Sorry I'm so invisible to you all and that only Tango ever gave a single fuck."
Seriously it's like
right above us